Category: Seeking Common Ground

Elizabeth was born on Thanksgiving Day of 1932 in the rural central California town of Lindsay to Surpoohe and Garabed Gavian. The Thanksgiving turkey got left on the barbeque that year. She grew up on the family ranch near Lindsay and lived there until she completed her Junior year of high school at Lindsay High School.

She moved to Visalia, the largest city in Tulare County for her Senior year of high school. Elizabeth continued her education at College of the Sequoias in Visalia. Shortly after finishing her formal education at COS, Elizabeth went to work for the Tulare County Health Department as a Clerk/Typist.

It was typical of the women of her time to marry and raise a family. Elizabeth was a typical woman of her time. She met and married a handsome young Public Health Sanitarian at the Tulare County Health Department named Walter Halen.

As was also typical of the time, Elizabeth (Betty) quit working for money and went to work raising two children that came along after two miscarriages at the start of her marriage to Walter. First came a boy, Bruce born in April of 1956, followed 13 months later by a daughter, Susan.

Caring for two babies in diapers was very challenging. Elizabeth struggled with staying mentally healthy. With the help of her mother, Surpoohe, she made through the difficult early years of child rearing. Walter was the provider and loving husband. But, much of the day-to-day child raising was done by Betty. She worked in PTA all through Bruce and Susan’s childhoods and would eventually become the District PTA President.

Once her children were through school and on their own ways in life, Elizabeth continued a life of dedicated service to family and community. She volunteered for several years with our local Congressman, Cal Dooley and at the Well Baby Clinic. For many years, Betty and Walter’s garage became a polling place for voting in the elections central to the core tenets of Democracy.

Later, that same garage would become a distribution site for the Visalia Senior Gleaners program. The Gleaners would go to the yards of Visalians and pick excess fruit and then bring it to distribution sites where it was bagged and prepared for pick-up by senior citizens.

Elizabeth would struggle with mental health issues in later life, but her final two years at Alma Via Assisted Living in Camarillo, California were wonderful years for her and Walt. She received competent and loving care and she flourished while at Alma Via. Susan was a rock in seeing to regular visits and outings from her home in nearby Oxnard.

Walter passed away in March of 2017 at 95. Elizabeth lived until the following February. She is buried in Visalia with Walter, her husband of over 60 years in Visalia.

Thanks, Mom.

Saturday, November 7 eased my anxiety a great deal. Joe Biden and Kamala Harris were declared the winners of the 2020 Presidential Election.

So, why do I feel only calmish? Well, unlike Barack Obama who invited the president-elect to the White House three days after the results of the election were determined, it is almost Thanksgiving and no such invitation has come from the sitting president.

“God Grant Me the Courage to Change the Things I Can Change, the Serenity to Accept the Things That I Can’t Change and the Wisdom to know the Difference.”

Reinhold Niebuhr

I clearly haven’t fully embraced the message in the Serenity Prayer. I believe that I have the first third of it, the Courage part. But I’ve yet to grasp the Serenity and Wisdom parts of the prayer. I if did have a grasp on the meaning of the entirety of the prayer, I would be feeling calm. Not just calmish, but calm. Sort of like I feel when I gaze at this photograph for a while.

Deep down inside, I do believe in the words of Unitarian Theologian Theodore H. Parker that “the moral arc of the Universe bends toward justice.” But, I am finding it very hard to have the patience to see the arc reaching justice.

The arc has made it part way to its goal. A new president has been elected. One that will work to unite Americans and not divide Americans. One that will work to ease the suffering from the Coronavirus Pandemic, not make it worse. One that will tell you the truth regardless of whether or not you want to hear it. One that will address the long swept-under- the-rug issue of Race so that the long trip to equality and justice can get on the road.

One that will address Climate Change and work to mitigate it’s effects for the benefit of generations to come. One that will see that the best way to get along in a diverse and ever changing world is to collaborate and communicate with other world leaders to solve problems that don’t end at the waters edge or a man-made political boundary.

Next comes the recognition on the part of the President that, as they did four years earlier, the American people have made a choice. The people, as will be finalized in the coming weeks, have chosen a president.

Perhaps remembering the items on this list from the book “All I Really Needed to Know I Learned in Kindergarten” would encourage the president, and us, to do the right thing at this moment in time. The things that formed us into who we are today.

• Share Everything.
• Play Fair.
• Don’t Hit People.
• Put Things back Where You Found Them.
• CLEAN UP YOUR OWN MESS.
• Don’t Take Things That Aren’t Yours.
• Say You’re Sorry When You Hurt Somebody.
• Wash Your Hands Before You Eat.
• Flush.
• Warm Cookies and Cold Milk are Good For You.
• Live a Balanced Life- Learn Some and Drink Some and Draw Some and Paint Some and Sing and Dance and Play and Work Everyday Some.
• Take a Nap Every Afternoon.
• When you go out into the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together
• Be aware of Wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
• Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the styrofoam cup-they all die. So do we.
• And then remember the “Dick-and-Jane” books and the first word you learned-the biggest work of all-Look.

–Robert Fulghum, All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten

I feel much calmer now.

My initial inspiration for this post began with Stanford Blood Center’s annual Precious Mettle event. It is an event where speakers offer stories about their experiences as donors or recipients in order to encourage donors to continue to donate and to thank them for their continued support as blood donors.

This is important. Especially considering that of the 38% of Americans eligible to donate, only 10% of that 38% actually donate. So, we are a valued commodity. More on donating blood in a future posting.

Subsequent inspiration is coming from a Netflix series on Medal of Honor recipients. I watched the first four stories as my way of remembering our military veterans on Veteran’s Day. What I learned about these heroes is that their stories were similar in one very important way. They cared more about others and their wellbeing than they cared about themselves.

Sgt. Sylvester Antolak (WW 2), Sgt. Edward Carter (WW 2), Sgt. Clinton Romesha (rome-eh-shay, Afghanistan) and Sgt. Hiroshi Miyamura (Korea) are not exactly household names. Nor would they or any of the 3500+ men and women who have received the Medal of Honor want to be household names.

In their minds they were helping their mates and in so doing their duty, they performed acts of courage and bravery that earned them the attention of grateful comrades and their country . They put their comrades and friends before themselves in extraordinary ways in military combat situations. These stories have been so moving that I decided to post my thoughts on what I call the culture of giving.

The Culture of Giving can take countless forms. For example, to donate blood a person must often overcome a fear of needles. They do it because like the Medal of Honor heroes, they are willing to overcome their own personal fear in order to help someone else. Someone else that they likely will never meet. But they do it because they have been taught that being of service to others is the greatest goal in life.

First responders, doctors, nurses, health care workers of all kinds, elder care workers immediately come to mind as people who most obviously share this Culture of Giving. Teachers come to mind as well. In fact I would say that we are all come into this world with this characteristic.

Psychologists and counselors correct me if I’m wrong, but all people are born good. It’s our nature. Simply by the act of being born, we default to the Culture of Giving. When faced with the opportunity to help out in a difficult situation, we instantly start asking what can I do to help. Then we act on that impulse and help those in need or danger.

But it seems that the process of living or our “Nurture” has an affect on this giving culture. It can be taken out of us. The different human nurturing experiences that each of us grows up in has an impact on how we feel about giving later in life.

Let me take myself as an example using the Culture of Giving idea. I can honestly say that giving for me is a way of life. The things that I do are done out of a sense of mission that I started learning as a child at home, at church and at school. I simply don’t know any other way to be. It took me awhile, but I found my life’s work as a middle school teacher. I volunteer with my church choir because I am a singer. I donate blood platelets because it is another way that I can give. I ride my bicycle and practice yoga so that I am physically and mentally prepared to give the most that I can.

I view all things that I do, the teaching, the donating of blood, the singing, the cycling, the serving on the church board, the writing of get out the vote letters for the recently completed election and anything else that I have the privilege to do as merely another opportunity to give back to my communities and my planet.

This is what I call the Culture of Giving. This is the time of year when Americans lift up giving in the form of “Thanksgiving.” Giving, of course, is not limited to one day of the year. It comes out of a deeper, internalized Culture of Giving which I mindfully adhere to with a loving sense of thanks and giving every day.

Happy Thanksgiving and may you be aware of the Culture of Giving around you.

I lean significantly to the political left. My posts make no effort to hide that bias. Quite possibly the largest contributor to my political bias (and yours) are where we go for our news and entertainment.

In the aftermath of the 2020 Election, those media biases are on full and stark display. Yesterday, the pharmaceutical giant Pfizer announced that an early analysis of its coronavirus vaccine trial was “robustly” effective in preventing COVID-19.

Fox News commentator Laura Ingraham ran clips of Dr. Anthony Fauci and another prominent physician making statements about the vaccine being six months to a year away. She then ran a clip of a post election celebration which she said indicated a double standard in media coverage of Republicans not wearing masks and Democrats wearing masks. In the clip, she was attempting to show that people participating in the Biden celebrations following the election call on Saturday morning were not wearing masks. The clip went by very quickly and was shot from some distance away that made it hard to see if people were wearing masks or not. Ingraham has a sarcastic delivery style. She was using the Pfizer announcement as a way to poke fun at the doctors saying that the vaccine was still six months to a year away. Ingraham also suggested that the timing of the Pfizer announcement was saved until after the election for political reasons. This was a clear example of media bias.

Pfizer’s early results are optimistic, but they don’t mean that the vaccine is ready right now. A corporate announcement doesn’t mean that the vaccine has been independently tested and evaluated for safety and long term effectiveness against the coronavirus. Nor does it mean that it can be produced in the quantities and delivered to the 328.2 million Americans that it needs to reach for 100% coverage of the population. Reality is that the vaccine, as stated by the doctors on MSNBC, is still several months to a year away from reaching people.

The media bias applied to this vaccine story can be easily discerned. But, to discern the bias, you need to listen to different reports of the same story to see that a story can be manipulated to communicate the desired message of the news source. In this case whether it was Rupert Murdoch’s NewsCorp/Fox News or NBCUniversal’s MSNBC.

So, my message for you is to look at different sources of news. Pick a story and make yourself leave the comfortable source that you agree with and examine the story as told by at least one other news source with a different point of view. This is not to say that one or the other source is right or wrong in this instance, but it will give you an idea where our division comes from.

I suggested in a previous post “From My Almost Daily Journal” of November 6, 2020, that what we need is a “Middle Media.” This Middle Media would be a hybridized news organization that combines these mega moguls into a trusted news source where information is scrutinized, analyzed and factually presented so that we all develop our opinions based on a common news source

Please do pay attention to the links. They help provide some visual perspective to where new organizations fall on the scale of partisanship and analysis of the news. Here are some other graphic representations of news organizations and how they compare with other news organizations in the areas of partisanship and analysis.

I’m a big fan of The News Hour on PBS. One of my favorite segments is the Friday interaction between New York Times Columnist David Brooks and Syndicated Columnist Mark Shields moderated by respected journalist Judy Woodruff.

Today, of course, they were talking about the November 3 Election. I have tremendous respect for the two journalists, the former leans to the right and the former to the left. Brooks was musing about how this race should have been a much easier election for the Democrats to win given the wide spread unpopularity of the sitting president.

Black, Latino, LGBTQ+ voters expressed themselves as individuals showing that they were not homogenous groups that would automatically vote Democrat. Non-college graduate White males voted heavily Republican. The clear message of repudiation that the Democrats were seeking did not materialize in the final vote count. We can debate the reasons why people voted the way they voted.

I want to write briefly about my concern for Brooks’ suggestion that the Republican Party may have found a way to re-define itself by becoming the party of the non-College educated working class. This is a dangerous way to run a country. Divide us on the grounds of education.

Just as I have characterized the Republican Party as the party of the rich, which I still believe is essentially accurate, the Democratic Party would then be characterized as the party of the educated? I certainly hope not. Yale educated, Conservative intellectual William F. Buckley must be shifting in his grave. Buckley was an author, commentator and founder of the magazine National Review that served as a stimulus for political conservatism in 1950’s-60’s before it gained large scale popularity. I think that he would take exception to this characterization of his party.

College educated indicates to me a group of people who, despite their many and varied areas of study, have been trained to think about issues critically, to question and be skeptical of claims made by people and parties. This division along educational lines just simply cannot be allowed to happen in this great country where opportunities exist for every American to advance to the highest levels of their potential and drives.

We will need to put more emphasis on critical thinking skills in K-12 education. This will help foster a more independent thinking and discerning group of American voters without requiring a college education to develop those skills.

Thanks to David Brooks for bringing up this point. It has had a big impact on me. That is a microcosm of what we need in our country right now. The ability to listen to each other and learn from each other. Things that divide us need to discouraged and things that unite us need to be encouraged.

Post Script:

MSNBC called the Presidential Election for Joe Biden at 8:24 a.m. PST. Fox and CNN a few minutes later. Now, we need to allow the legal challenges to go through the process. Then, we can start the hard work of once again becoming the United States of America. God Bless America.

Yesterday was great. I had three Zoom sessions and each one filled a totally different niche in my life. The first was a small group Lunch meeting with our Financial Advisor, Tom Vaughn followed by a 4:30 Yoga session for an hour and the “working” day finished with a church choir rehearsal at 7:00 p.m.

This was a well timed busy day to keep my mind occupied while the wait for the results of the 2020 Presidential Election to be finalized. I’m getting tired of hearing the words “battleground” states. It makes it sound like we are at war. I for one am not at war. I want the Election to be conducted as elections are supposed to be conducted in this country and then let’s get on with the business of making the country great. So much rides on this presidential race. So much rides on this election.

I don’t think that many folks on the Republican/Conservative side have a grip on the true nature of the horse they are riding. My hope is that Biden-Harris can garner the Electoral votes that they need and start bringing us all back in the direction of together. It’s going to take a long time and lots of sincere, focused positive energy to get this country back on track.

The White Supremacist culture must be addressed before this country can be linked to the word great. President Trump’s slogan, “Make America Great Again,” is simply not a true statement. Greatness has not yet been achieved. It will begin to be achieved as soon as we acknowledge our national problem of race.

My feeling is that we can begin to address the issue of race by creating a process similar to the one used in South Africa after the collapse of Apartheid. South Africans began a dialogue on race through a Truth and Reconciliation Commission which gave people a chance to hear the experiences of others and begin to reconcile their differences. We simply need to start communicating with each other again. This division stuff must come to an end.

Along with a Truth and reconciliation Commission, we need a common media outlet that every feels comfortable watching and listening to with each other. When we have the same basic information, we then have a common foundation on which to debate our differences because we will know what our differences are. I don’t think that we have that now.

My passionate fear of “The Right” is undoubtedly matched by a passionate fear of “The Left.” The way to start addressing these largely unfounded fears is get rid of “Right Wing” media and “Left Wing” media and replace them with a “Middle Media.” It will need to be a place where people all along the political spectrum can gather, listen to, think about and converse about the issues of the day. In the media market we have today, common ground is nearly impossible to find.

We need dialect on guns, immigration, reproductive rights, health care, regulations, law enforcement and so much more. It’s time to get busy. Let’s use this moment in time to get it done.